Tag: wellness

  • ‘It’s time to stop being nightwalkers’: Identity coach Ché Fegan on creating a new landscape for gay men in Ireland 

    ‘It’s time to stop being nightwalkers’: Identity coach Ché Fegan on creating a new landscape for gay men in Ireland 

    Ché Fegan. Photo Credit: Alex O’Brien 

    In a time where many gay men still struggle to find themselves, Ché Fegan is making space for them to feel more honest and aligned with themselves. Following his own struggles and travelling the globe, Fegan reflects on his journey to finding himself.  

    By Kelly Smyth 

    As toxic masculinity and identity politics dominate the online world, identity coach and wellness practitioner Ché Fegan is making space in the real world for gay men to stop chasing validation and embrace who they truly are. 

    Hailing from a rural town in Northern Ireland, growing up wasn’t always simple for Fegan. “From a younger age I was always odd. I had this wild imagination and connection with the outdoors. I was very sensitive and in tune with my emotions,” he said.  

    While this was seen as acceptable for a young boy, things changed as he entered puberty, which is when he believes many men in Ireland are taught to deny who they are in favour of society’s masculine model. 

    “Once you hit puberty, you begin to look like a man instead of a boy. You are kind of pushed away by the men in your life. You are told ‘don’t feel anything’, ‘man up’, ‘toughen up’ – to fit into those already established gender roles. For men, that often means killing everything inside you,” he recalled.  

    For Fegan, being a young gay man caused issues; his sexuality attracted bullying. “It was a place where something different was a curse rather than a blessing,” he said. 

    Despite this, Fegan’s sexuality was a guiding light for who he wanted to be. Although it was “distorting” to be both gay and facing up to masculinity as a young man, his identity brought a real drive for equity in his heart. 

    “My homosexuality gave me a lot of needed fight, and I’ve always had a strong sense of fairness. It fires something up in me,” he said. 

    While this drive to move forward carried him through his teenage years, he found himself battling his identity and sexuality through his twenties. “As a man, regardless of sexuality, you can still go through identity issues. You tend to figure out things behind the scenes. It could be arguing, travelling, hypersexuality. Anything to get away,” he shared.  

    Much of his young adulthood was spent travelling, with his move to Australia finally breaking the cycle of battling his own identity. 

    “Between twenty-eight and thirty I lived in Australia, and I felt incredible loneliness. It was a moment when I was finally feeling. I remember thinking ‘this is f-cked up’ because I should have been able to feel comfortable by myself. But I felt like a stranger in myself. I thought I knew myself, but really, I was just a people pleaser. I had never truly known who I was,” he revealed.  

    This revelation is ultimately what led Fegan to spirituality, beginning with reiki before embracing breathwork, yoga, and sound healing. Part of his spiritual journey was almost serendipitous, with a book on Buddhism he found on the streets of Berlin introducing him to new ideas and a “broadening of the mind”. 

    Embracing wellness has led him to learn more about himself. Now he is ready to share it with others. “I am at a point where I know things now that I want to share. I want to help people feel how I feel now,” he said. 

    Ché Fegan leads one of his breathwork classes. Photo Credit: Ciaran Gildea. 

    Hearing more and more about men in Ireland struggling with their mental health and suicide, Fegan decided it was time to create space for men to find themselves. He also noticed gay men in particular had no spaces beyond nightlife.  

    “If you don’t drink or don’t go out it can be very isolating. It’s time to stop being nightwalkers and time to be seen and heard,” he said. “The space I want to create is based around community. I want to start getting men together and create an environment of softness.” 

    Part of how Fegan is doing this is by offering Men’s Circles, where any man can go to experience somatic movement, breathwork, and a sound bath aimed to help them reconnect with themselves. 

    Additionally, Fegan runs retreats for gay men to help them break harmful patterns surrounding their identity. 

    “Because the gay community is so new in terms of history, so many patterns of harm are repeating regarding shame. I want the next generation of gay men to heal. Why not rule out hate all together?” he said.  

    While many men who are on this journey tend to be older, Fegan reaffirms “the door is open to anyone who wants to come”. 

    “The work I do is about helping men slow down and actually reconnect with themselves through breathwork, nervous system work, and deeper pattern awareness. It’s not about fixing them. 

    “It’s about helping them understand themselves, so they can stop performing and start making choices that feel more honest and aligned with who they are. I think a lot of men are quietly dealing with this, but don’t always have spaces where they feel safe enough to explore it. That’s something I’m trying to change through the work I do.” 

  • Tibetan bowls, Botox and bee beds: a day at the Dublin Mind Body Experience

    Tibetan bowls, Botox and bee beds: a day at the Dublin Mind Body Experience

    The Dublin Mind Body Experience was held over three days at the end of February and the beginning of March, bringing together a variety of exhibitors in the fields of holistic health, yoga and general wellness.  

    By Adam Jackson  

    The scent of incense was thick in the air in the RDS hall four, with almost 200 stalls set up, displaying a variety of products and organisations.  

    The Dublin Mind Body Experience might have seemed overwhelming at first, with so many different things jammed into a relatively small area, but after doing a circuit of the hall, one would be likely to see something that attracted their interest.  

    The event was a combination of four different elements: the Mind Body Soul Expo, the Yoga and Meditation Festival, the Dublin Wellness Expo, and the Dublin Psychic Fair.  

    As well as exhibitors desperately trying to make eye contact with anyone window-shopping, there were those consistently drowning in customer inquiries.   

    A café area, where people could take a break from perusing the stalls. Photo Credit: Adam Jackson 

    Immediately to the left upon entering, was a stall that might be easy to miss, with the intriguing name Ballyhubbock Bee Beds.  

    Gillian Moody, who managed this stall, talked about her experience attending the Mind Body Experience for the first time, drawing particular attention to the difficulties that came with exhibiting bee beds.  

    “This is my first time ever exhibiting or even attending the Dublin Mind Body Experience, and I’m here for people to understand what bee bed therapy is,” Moody said.  

    Moody’s bee beds are beds filled with multiple colonies of bees, the idea being that the vibration of the bees’ wings has some sort of therapeutic property.  

    Understandably, Moody was unable to bring one of these beds to the event.  

    “For the likes of these shows, I don’t necessarily have something that people can sample. Some people pass the stand, and you can see the hesitant look on their faces,” Moody said.  

    Moody explained that although it was difficult to get people interested without something physical to show them, once she explained the concept of the bee beds, people became more interested.  

    “People automatically assume that it’s bee venom therapy or that they might get stung, but with bee bed therapy, you don’t physically interact with the bees,” Moody said.  

    Although Moody did not have the ability to bring along her bee beds, there were plenty of stalls providing samples of different therapies or simply selling products.

    One stall that sold a variety of tarot cards, among other things. Photo Credit: Adam Jackson

    There was an entire corner dedicated to psychic readings, as well as beds and chairs set up for various types of mental, spiritual and physical therapy.  

    One thing that was impossible not to notice were the gongs and other sound devices set up in various stalls, all to demonstrate something called sound therapy.  

    One such stall was set up by AOSTI (Association of Sound Therapists Ireland), who were there to promote entering sound therapy as a profession.  

    Jennifer Cruise, the chairperson of AOSTI, explained the practice as the use of certain sound frequencies as a form of therapy, using instruments like Tibetan bowls, crystal balls and gongs.  

    “We’ve been absolutely inundated with people,” Cruise said.  

    “This fair, which is the largest indoor holistic fair in Ireland, has had far more sound therapists this year than any other year.”   

    Cruise attributed this popularity to the ease with which most people can use sound therapy.   

    “Anybody can experience sound; you don’t have to be a musician, you just have to understand how sound affects people,” Cruise said.  

    Although human wellbeing was a major focus of the event, somewhat surprisingly, there was one stall set up for the wellbeing of non-human animals.   

    IAVS (Irish Anti-Vivisection Society) were there to spread the word about animal testing in Ireland, specifically focusing on Botox testing.  

    “We’re here to publicise the amount of abuses carried out on non-human animals every year, both in Ireland and the world,” Catherine Morrow, IAVS chairperson, said.  

    While the EU has banned cosmetics testing on animals, Botox testing is still allowed on a technicality.  

    “At the moment, we are particularly focused on campaigning against the testing of Botox on mice, which kills thousands of animals in Ireland every year,” said Morrow.  

    Morrow emphasised the existence of humane alternatives to animal testing that she said were “more reliable” and “far cheaper”.   

    The Dublin Mind Body Experience seems to have been the right event for IAVS, with plenty of interest coming from the event’s attendees.  

    “We’ve had crowds of people today, a number of vegetarian and vegan people coming to the stall, so they are automatically sympathetic,” said Morrow.  

    Later on in the day, the event was no longer quite so busy. Photo Credit: Adam Jackson

    Things were dying down by six o’clock, although the event was indoors, the skylight above made the waning light apparent.   

    There were no longer nearly as many attendees as there had been earlier in the day, and exhibitors were beginning to pack up their stuff and leave.   

    Exhibitors who had been previously eager to catch the attention of passing attendants were, at that point, comfortable with the lack of engagement, many of them using the downtime to read.  

    Like so many other things, the Dublin Mind Body Experience ended, slowly fading out.  

  • Video:  Mental Physical Wellness Interview

    Video: Mental Physical Wellness Interview

    The fitness industry is booming worldwide, a lot of thanks must go to the ever increasing influence of social media. However many fitness models or celebrities often portray unrealistic body standards and often focus on body image to promote their brand.

    Michael O’Driscoll, Andrew Brennan, John Buckley and Sab Medlar, four young college students have created an Instagram fitness page of their own, however, they have replaced this objectification with a focus on the important issue of mental health.

    Daniel Osborne & Eoghan McGrane sat down with creators Michael O’Driscoll and Andrew Brennan to discuss the newest group in the Irish fitness industry….

    You can follow the guys here: Instagram @mental_physical_wellness